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There are several reasons that cause women to take relationships with married men. We can enumerate the diagnosis so far:
a) the lack of affection;
b) the feeling of absence of the father (or the lack of interaction with the poor living with his father);
c) the good economic situation it presents;
d) the perception (which is often false) that if he is married, you must have something good or very good;
e) the pleasure of imagining that the love he can feel is so great as to leave one family for her;
f) the desire to live a great novel, impossible love (a novel).
a) lack of affection
There are women who have had no luck with relationships. Every sense of failure, she feels an increasing hopelessness of one day finding a good man to marry her. She begins to believe that men are to blame, they do not pay and do not want to get married, just want to fool around, have sex with as many women as possible. They are poor, they feel alone, are afraid of loneliness.
They know a married man, she sees him taking care of his family and wants that for her. She puts on a pedestal, "but he is a man who pays." Suddenly, she realizes that he gives her attention. As she was feeling needy, lonely, attention it gives you comfort and hope. She begins to dream: "I will conquer it, he is a good man and will be mine."
In the hope that he falls in love with her, she accepts to fuck him, then accepted his schedule as a married man: commemorative days such as Christmas, New Year, Valentine's Day, his birthday etc, are the days when he has to be with family. Some are broken down to get to be with his wife and the lover on Valentine's Day. He gives this to his mistress and she feels loved. he buys her love.
She dreams that he loves her, he does believe it and she does not doubt. Over time, she begins to feel in the background, he does not answer her phone calls because he was with his wife, on weekends, he is with his family, and worse, she imagines him having sex with his wife. All this begins to bite.
Some men even lie saying that there is more sex with his wife. We know that if a married man claimed it for his mistress in order to calm the anger of her, but one day the wife appears pregnant ...
Anyway, she begins to suffer and the charges start on it. He lies, to convince her about all the stories he invents. With the passage of time (in most cases, after a few years), she realizes that he will not separate from his wife, but now, after so many years of investment in it, can not give in easily. This is primarily because it is still poorer than at the beginning of the relationship, despite this relationship, she feels more alone still, after all he is not with her whenever she wants, she compares her relationship with the other that sees the street, who witnesses her friends live, and only increases his loneliness.
And to make matters worse her situation, she no longer has high self-esteem. If she had before starting this "novel" (for us it is a tragic drama) some self-esteem, relationship over the years, she has lost completely.
If the family and friends know of the relationship, all who have common sense and enjoy it, try to warn her or what she already knows (but does not dare to respond) or do not want to believe. And these warnings sound like her aggression, she often puts on the defensive to continue.
Only those who can resolve the situation is and if she does not resolve soon, it may be too late.
b) Feeling of father absence
There are women who had no father because of his death, or abandonment of the family. There are also those who were living at home with his father, but either because he worked too much, or being on or off a cold man, living for her, was unsatisfactory. This leads to the feeling of emptiness, lack of masculine presence of an older man.
A married man with children, represents the father figure. A woman who has this lack can most often unconsciously, fall in love with a married man (most of the time, he is older). That "love" is born it is the psyche's attempt to overcome or fill the gap she feels. She misses the security that a father gives and tries to achieve this with a married man and older.
If it relates to this man, the feeling of absence will increase because, as we saw above, he will keep it a few times and she feels alone, helpless. The sense of abandonment to accentuate, which will cause much suffering.
The relationship with the married man, she will have even greater difficulty to relate because of the feeling of abandonment. You can become a person begging for attention, which only further alienate men.
c) Good economic situation that it has
Except those who were born lucky, men who have good economic situation, for the most part, are already married. A woman who wants a man with good economic situation will have little choice, therefore, as a rule, find married men.
If their objective is just that, the fact that he was married she will not be obstacle to relate to. If she has hope that he is separating from his wife because she wants to be put in her place, to enjoy what was his wife. If it does not separate, while it is giving jewelry, apartment, car and paying the expenses of it, it will not matter.
Hardly the kind of woman will urge him to divorce if she is getting what you want. Neither is wrong: there is an exchange of money for sex.
d) perception that he is married, is must have something good or very good
This case is similar to that in which women have been let down by men and think who is married is good. But not only that: there are women who were not disappointed with men, they just prefer those who are already committed, and they believe they must have something very good.
Typically, women are truly competitive with other women, they want to "steal" the husband of another. They think "if he is good, it must be mine," and if it is compromised, "is a sign that is really good."
For this case, there will be two consequences: it will try to "steal" for a long time (because really fell in love), or she will see that it is not so good, but had already separated from his wife, and ends the case.
Such a woman thinks that because he's married, he's good in bed, he meets a woman and so on. Proof of this is that she realizes that the wife is not happy with her husband, she ceases to be interested in it.
Therefore, married women, do not advertise their husbands for other women, it may become the target of them. If you really know your friends, trust and speak well of her boyfriend / husband, but make sure they are really friends, after all you've heard the phrase: "He cheated on me with my own girlfriend!"
This goes for men as well: although most men are less competitive and comply with their friends in that sense, do not be talking to your girlfriend / wife is good in bed, it's tasty, as this can stir up men.
e) Pleasure to imagine that the love he can feel is so great as to leave her family for a
The cause is simple: she wants to feel so loved about him drop the family. She wants to feel more important than anything, she believes that ending the marriage is so great that it is proof of his love for her. It is very similar to the cause mentioned in the letter "f" (below), distinguished by the fact that she is not dramatic, she just believes that there is no proof of greater love than to abandon the family for her. And she wants to live the greatest love possible.
f) I want to live a great novel, impossible love (a novel).
There are dramatic people who would like to live great emotions, where the routine exists only where there is boredom. She wants to live impossible love, wants to be a real character in a novel.
She watches the novel and film drama and imagine being the woman you love the movie, I want to be loved by Romeo Juliet, wants to be the lover that makes a man crazy in love, is forced to decide between family and love. A hidden love, a mystery, something forbidden.
She fantasizes his life and tries to relate to men in complicated or difficult situation, as one in which a marriage is. She likes the difficulty, and that is what motivates and ignites his love for the married man. She likes the suffering (albeit unconsciously), like the fights because of his wife, likes to fight to make peace. Many of these women want to be told that his wife's betrayal, so she calls his wife to rely on and off. Or make anonymous phone call, or find the e-mail her to tell all or cause so suspenseful.
As for one reason or another, the result is the same: misery, anguish and sorrow. Suggestion? Be a man only for you, there are women in the background.